Why The Best Present Is Being Present (Christmas Special) | Episode 3

As Christmas draws near, we’re surrounded by the warmth of family gatherings, the joy of traditions, and the sparkle of lights. But amidst all the celebrations, have you ever found yourself physically present, yet mentally somewhere else? You’re sitting at the dinner table, but your thoughts are racing—worrying about deadlines, replaying past conversations, or overthinking every little thing.

This Christmas, let’s reflect on a gift that doesn’t come wrapped in ribbons or boxes but holds immense value: the gift of being fully present. Last week, we explored how a quiet mind can bring peace and clarity. Today, we’ll take it further by discussing how being present can deepen your relationships, enhance your experiences, and add more meaning to your life.

Picture this: you’re watching your child open their Christmas gift, but instead of soaking in their excitement, your mind is replaying an argument from days ago. Or imagine sharing a meal with a loved one, but instead of savoring the flavors and conversation, you’re worrying about next year’s budget.

This mental distraction—being physically there but mentally absent—has a hidden cost:

Over time, this habit becomes more than just a fleeting problem. It leaves you disconnected, not just from others but also from yourself. Your energy drains because your mind is busy replaying the past or worrying about the future. Instead of finding peace or fulfillment, you feel stressed and restless.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking, “If I don’t constantly analyze the past or plan for the future, I’ll lose control.” You might believe that replaying a mistake will prevent it from happening again or that worrying about tomorrow will somehow make you more prepared.

But the truth is, staying stuck in your head doesn’t help you gain control—it keeps you away from what really matters: the present moment.

The present moment is all we truly have. The past is gone, and the future hasn’t arrived. Even when the future comes, it comes as the present moment. Imagine the opportunities for joy and connection you could be missing because you’re too caught up in your thoughts about the past and the future.

People who embrace presence have a remarkable way of living. They find happiness in the everyday:

When you live in the present, you recharge your energy, nourish your spirit, and find clarity. You respond to life’s challenges with wisdom, not fear or worry.

Being present isn’t about shutting off your thoughts entirely—it’s about shifting your focus to the here and now. Here’s how it might look in real life:

These small practices make a big difference. Over time, they help you reconnect with life and rediscover its beauty.

When you embrace being fully present, you’ll notice profound changes:

This Christmas, give yourself and your loved ones the gift of your presence. When you’re present, you’re giving the best version of yourself to those around you. Let this be the start of a new habit that carries into 2025.

So, the choice is yours: you can stay stuck in your head, replaying the past and worrying about the future, or you can learn to be fully present and embrace the beauty of the now.

If you choose presence, start small. Notice the moment you’re in right now—the sounds, sights, and feelings. Let it be your Christmas gift to yourself and to those you care about.

With that, we wish you and your loved ones a joyous and peaceful Christmas, filled with love, gratitude, and presence! May the holidays bring you closer to what truly matters. ✨

00:00 - Introduction

01:07 - Merry Christmas!

01:50 - Why One of the Biggest Mistakes is Failing to be Fully Present

04:48 - The Problem with Not Being Fully Present

09:23 - Misconceptions About Overthinking

11:25 - Why Presence Truly Matters

12:31 - Traits of People Who Live in the Moment

13:15 - Breathe (Halfway Check-In)

16:27 - What’s in It for You?

20:43 - How to Address This Common Mistake

23:25 - A New Perspective

24:40 - Embracing Presence: The Benefits of This Way of Living

25:59 - Stuck in Your Head vs. Fully Present—The Choice Is YOURS

28:35 - Life by Design

29:36 - Free Webinar: Paano Ba Matupad ang New Year’s Resolution? (Jan 7, 2025)